Why am I always worrying?


There are some people who are always worried about something.

A is worried about whether she will be able to climb the steps of a holiday villa that is not even booked yet.  In addition she is also worried that her usual taxi driver won’t be able to drive her to the airport and whether she will get everything in her suitcase for the flight.

B worries about going into meetings at work.  Will he stumble if he is asked a question? Will his colleagues look at him?  Judge him?  Will they think he doesn’t know how to do his job?  His anxiety is rising by the minute!

C constantly worries about her health.  If she gets a pain she immediately researches for signs of something serious. If she feels unwell she has to see the doctor immediately and paces the room crying until she does so.  She has been diagnosed with health anxiety.

D worries about her children and the time she spends with them, the food she cooks for them, whether they are developing at the right stages and whether their behaviour is normal.  Her worry causes her guilt and stops her sleeping.

Can you relate to any of these people?  Of course we all worry from time to time but if your worrying is getting out of hand then this must be making life uncomfortable for you.  Unless of course a worrier is WHO you are and HOW you define yourself.  In which case you are probably ok with it most of the time and in fact would be lost without something to worry about.

Worry and anxiety can give you headaches, backaches, tension, sleepless nights, affect your appetite etc.  Constant worrying can be seen as a habit and/or an addictive behaviour.  Both of these perspectives allow for change.  Cognitive therapy can certainly help you to make changes if that is what you would like.

Worrying is also wasted energy.  By that I mean if you didn’t worry what other positive things could you do with your time.  Think about putting all that energy into a new project/task or hobby.   Or you could take up meditation and  breath deeply to relax.

Most worriers do not live in the present moment but are stuck either in the past or in the future.  At this moment in time do you have anything to worry about?  If not then relax.

If there is a problem and you can do something about it then you don’t need to worry.
If there is a problem and you cannot do anything about then you don’t need to worry either.

So, slow down, let go of your worries and enjoy the flow of the moment.

In this present moment I am calm and all is well